Yesterday was the over-commercialized holiday to remind you to tell your significant other how they mean to you. I heard many mixed emotions about this "holiday" yesterday. Some couples say it's just another day, others make big plans to celebrate with chocolate and flowers and big romantic dinners. And then there is the singles perspective. Some singles are jealous of couples and get depressed, others don't even notice it came and went.
I heard a disturbing comment yesterday as I was chatting with two friends, one married and one single. The married one stated she didn't really care about Valentine's day it was just another day. The single one went on to talk about how it was "Single's Awareness Day." I have heard this phrase before and everytime it gets me the wrong way. Single's Awareness Day, really? So it's a day for couples to celebrate and for single's to soak in self pity? Poor me, I'm not married and I don't have a boyfriend. Wait? poor me? I'm not poor because I don't have a significant other. Why am I trying to define who I am by my relational status. I am not better off or worse off because I'm single. I am who I am.
What I'm trying to say is, why are we not celebrating the happy couples? Why do we have to put a negative light on a day that is meant to celebrate people being joined together. I am truly happy my parents are happily married, even though I don't always like the PDA. And besides that, I am content with being who God created me. I love being single because I know that if I was married I probably wouldn't get to do all of the cool things God has planned for my life right now if I was married. It would be nice to have someone to make those hard decisions with or to have that constant support and covering. But I have Jesus and no one can replace Him in my life. I am not going to live my life consumed with finding a guy when God wants me to be consumed with Him. I am pro marriage and I hope to one day be married, but until that day, I am not going to let being single hold me back from being all that God has created me to be.
God is my covering and has put great parents and many spiritual dad's and mom's in my life. He has given me a support system across the nations. I have brothers and sisters younger and older that pray for me and love me just as I am, even when I'm an opinionated jerk. One day I will get married and it will be grand but until then I am going to passionately continue as God has planned, whatever that is... ;)
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Great post and great attitude, Ellen. While Paul was content and productive in his single state, and was certainly not against marriage, I sometimes sense pity from him, when I read 1 Cor 7, for us married folk because of our divided interests between pleasing our spouse and pleasing God. Go on pleasing God with undivided attention for as long as He has plans for you. And all you other singles out there too.
ReplyDeleteAgreed! although its typically seen as a day to express your love for your "special someone" I think its a great day to tell everyone you love how much you care about them. I call it "Happy Love Day". :D
ReplyDeleteThis was a great blog. I love your insight Ellen. I loved being single. I also love being married. I think the main point is this: love God first.
ReplyDeleteLove you EB.
Rachel